Monthly Archives: July 2007




Fat is out, Thin is in. The blurb jumped out at me from an advertisement promoting a new health club in the city. The ad went on to heap humiliation on “fat” men and women  and concluded with this dire warning: “if you are over weight, your days are numbered”. Aren’t all our days numbered? Seriously I am bored stiff with the current global obsession with thinness.

The Thin Brigade is uncharitably ignoring an entire middle kingdom as it recognizes only the far ends of the spectrum, the thin and the obese. What about rest of us who could fall anywhere between healthy, plump, slightly over or heavy-set?

Can a fat person be an object of desire? That weighty existential question has been haunting a majority of youth from upper and middle classes throughout the thin maniac years. The generator of this angst was non other than the model Twiggy, who, with her matchstick figure completely rewrote the desirable dimension requirements of models the world over. And by extension, that of half the world’s population.

In the advertising world, the unisex look- a byproduct of the thinness fad- spelt the end of characteristic good looks that were essentially projections of differences rather than uniformity. Today, the more androgynous and international the look, the greater the demand. Unsurprisingly, faces and physiques on movie screens, TV monitors and ramps have become only predictable and crushingly boring.

Thank god Twiggy came after Marilyn Monroe and Elizabeth Taylor. And all those Renaissance sculptors and painters. Imagine a Reubens or a Ravi Verma painting with thin subjects. See what I mean? Soft contours emanate a grace and sensousness that an angular figure can never match. If Botticelli had painted an anorexic Venus rising from the sea, would the work of art evoke the same kind of rapture that it does?

The entire South Indian film industry would have gone bust, so to speak, if it were not for its imperviousness to this thin-is-in syndrome. Jayalalitha today has moved from cut-out to all-out in improving her shape and sense of proportion. Here’s a challenge: try making a life-size cut-out of a Julia Roberts or Isha Koppikar  and make it look appealing. A Simran or a Jyothika would win hands down, while a Mallika Sherawat might barely pass the grade.

By the way what happens if you fall out of a speeding car, as my grandma did and was saved by the layers of fat around the landing area? Besides if you have a developed background in your school years, the spanks don’t fall as hard as they might on a less endowed rear.

Fat tomatoes, fat patotoes, fat pay cheques, fat burgers, fat burghers have made the world go round all these years. Don’t straighten it please.




 When you don’t long to be anything other than what you are then your mind exists in the moment. Then you are at ease. Then you are in dharma.

In India, it is common to see interesting messages inscribed on vehicles, especially trucks. Once driving around Regal cinema I was amazed to see a sticker on a very small car “When I grow up, I want to be a Rolls Royce”

I started pondering over it. This was just a not a joke. It was indeed a very profound statement about human beings too. Nobody in this world is happy or content with what he is, he always wants to be something which he cannot be. Our school education also teaches us to become something, it gives us great ideals to follow. Ask any school going child what he or she wants to become, and there comes the answer “I want to become Mahatma Gandhi or Mother Teresa”.

These answers do make us happy and proud but the fact is that life does not want carbon copies. Life believes in originals. Life, existence, god would like every human being to flower in his original way to become something that we and he alone is supposed to become. Then there’s no tension. Tension arises when a rose wants to become a lotus.

You desire to become something. Tension means that you are not really pleased with what you are and you long to be what you are not. Tension is created between these two, and what you desire to become is irrelevant. If you want to become wealthy, famous, powerful or even if you want to be mortal, even if you long for salvation and moksha, then too the tension will be there.




Failure is never final unless one gives up.It is wisdom in disguise.Wisdom acquired is like light after weathering a storm.Failure doesnt mean we are failure, it only means we have not succeeded yet.It may be that we have not accomplished much in our venture but we learn few things from our mistakes.It hardly means we have wasted life,it implies we have reason to start afresh.

Thomas Edison on failure of his 10000th experiment said “I have successfully found out 10000 ways that will not work”. And light dawned on him.

When you enjoy both success and failure then you are an integrated person.Your understanding is based on strong foundation.Then you are not a perfectionist.You will see elegance in a green leaf and beauty in a dry leaf.

Let us learn to use failure as a springboard to success.Let us learn to stick to our mission like a spider and never give up.

I dont know the key to success but the key to failure is to try to please everyone.

Bill Cosby




The most popular president in Indian History is about to be dethroned in unseemly backroom horse trading.

We have console ourselves by saying that politics is competitive by nature and what else can you expect from political parties who are only ruled by self-interest.

Whether it is presidential or capitalist ethics, the starting point is the recognition that both democratic politics and capitalism are based on competition and this is what keeps people honest in the long term. Both democracy and capitalism are decentralised system where no single person is in charge. Adam Smith wrote more than 250 years ago that when millions of self-interested individuals act in their own interest in the marketplace, an invisible hand promotes the common good of society. However institutions are not perfect and the UPA presidential candidate teach us that ethics matter profoundly in our democratic capitalist system.

As the saying goes “Khud hi kar buland itna ke khuda khud tujhse pooche..bata teri raza kya hai…” and in the case of APJ i guess thats what happened and he clearly stated that he wud stand only if “there’s certainty in his re-election”….when crores of citizens voted for him to be the president for the second time why dint Sonia Gandhi see that…this actually makes me think that is our Indian System really of Democratic nature?