Have you ever had strong feelings for someone but you are not too sure about him? You felt that he just may be the “ONE” however there may be some doubts lingering at the back of your mind. Or he may be pressing you to take the relationship to the next level and you want to know if this is the right decision. Or you may love him and want to marry him but feel scared about what would happen in the future.
Would your marriage/relationship become a booming success or would you get a broken heart </3 – shattered dreams?
Is he the one or must you search for another?
My gurlies have always been worried about this. So often that, we have discussed this at all the Slumber Parties. What has always worked on deciding if “HE” is the right man for you are –
1.First think about what it would be like 10, 20, or 30 years from now.
Is he the one you would like to grow old with. The one who would hold your hand and sail you through all the tough times and the one who would sing to you on your 65th Birthday the evergreen famous song “oh! meri zohrajabi, tujhe maalum nahi… ” 🙂
2. Think about what type of husband he would make.
- Is he a husband material?
If he’s the philander types or one-woman-man types. How much does he believe in the institution of marriage.
- Would he be able to provide your emotional, physical and financial needs?
4. Is he the type of person you can weather the storms of life with?
This definitely means that do you believe if this person will stand for you and vice-versa.
5. What type of father would this person make? A hands-on one and the one who adores kids or the one you-take-care-of-this-wet-diaper-clad-thingie!! 😐
6. Can you see yourself waking up and living with this person every day?
Meet ups are the ones to give an idea of how we can look, but deep under the tonnes of attitude of a man lies a simple nervous specie who wants to be accepted just as HE is, no-Park Avenues, no- Van Heusens, no- Red Tapes and no- Tag Heurs too.
7. Can he bring you happiness – not just immediate gratification but lasing happiness?
I know a record number of people who are married to the love-of-their-life and NOW know what happiness is. It can never be replaced with the thrills money can get, its the simple touch of the hands, looking deep into each others eyes and feeling complete, dropping in a mail or a call just to say a HI and raising those heartbeats and many such simple things. Keeping it really Simple is the key.
If you can answer yes to the questions above, well baby you have the right man for you.
What if you are sure about most of the questions but unsure about some of them? Then you need to ask yourself this powerful question – Is he willing to learn or grow in this area? Is he teachable!?!?!
Remember no man will be 100% and it takes Two to Tango, however if he and you have the right spirit,and willing to do what is necessary,it’ll make a brilliant relationship. 🙂